Dangerous word...that word "should."
There are major expectations that go along with the word "should." There are great amounts of suffering that attach to that word as well.
That word...can drive you mad or keep you stuck in the past.
Maybe you've heard yourself utter the words before...
"That should have happened...this should go that way..."
Truth is, it didn't go that way.
When you stay in the land of should, you are stuck in the past or the future.
When you have a "should" that is living in the past, you aren't fully able to come to terms with what is actually going on in your life. You think that it should have gone some way it didn't actually go and that brings a great amount of pain and suffering to your life because you can't accept the reality of the situation.
Like in meditation, you have to come back.
When your "should" is existing in the future, you are projecting what "needs" to happen onto a time and place that you can't actually see. You are essentially diving into the unknown and out of fear (typically) wanting certain situations to go certain ways. What happens if they don't? You end up being incredibly disappointed in the current events.
You have to keep coming back to the present.
We are all going to have incredibly painful times in our lives that are going to make us want to project an experience onto a life we really have real idea of what's going to happen. That's ok in some ways, but the reality is you have to come back to living in the mystery of the present moment.
These dark times will always be there.
But endless suffering comes with being unable to accept the truth fully.
What happened...happened...and it couldn't have happened...in any other way.
And what happens when you let go of your past and your future and come back to the present moment?
You get to accept the reality of the life you are in.
"Should" doesn't exist anymore.
No living in the past...because we've accepted it.
No living in the future anymore because you are here in this moment.
Be here.
So stay connected with the present moment.
Come to a world full of acceptance.
There are major expectations that go along with the word "should." There are great amounts of suffering that attach to that word as well.
That word...can drive you mad or keep you stuck in the past.
Maybe you've heard yourself utter the words before...
"That should have happened...this should go that way..."
Truth is, it didn't go that way.
When you stay in the land of should, you are stuck in the past or the future.
When you have a "should" that is living in the past, you aren't fully able to come to terms with what is actually going on in your life. You think that it should have gone some way it didn't actually go and that brings a great amount of pain and suffering to your life because you can't accept the reality of the situation.
Like in meditation, you have to come back.
When your "should" is existing in the future, you are projecting what "needs" to happen onto a time and place that you can't actually see. You are essentially diving into the unknown and out of fear (typically) wanting certain situations to go certain ways. What happens if they don't? You end up being incredibly disappointed in the current events.
You have to keep coming back to the present.
We are all going to have incredibly painful times in our lives that are going to make us want to project an experience onto a life we really have real idea of what's going to happen. That's ok in some ways, but the reality is you have to come back to living in the mystery of the present moment.
These dark times will always be there.
But endless suffering comes with being unable to accept the truth fully.
What happened...happened...and it couldn't have happened...in any other way.
And what happens when you let go of your past and your future and come back to the present moment?
You get to accept the reality of the life you are in.
"Should" doesn't exist anymore.
No living in the past...because we've accepted it.
No living in the future anymore because you are here in this moment.
Be here.
So stay connected with the present moment.
Come to a world full of acceptance.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into some great bible quotes on faith by clicking here or read more quotes on hope.
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