We grew up inter-reliant. This could have been due to influencing from alcoholic or narcissistic parents. We have had several narcissistic relationships as a result. Our identity revolves around what we are to other people and what we can give them. This means we are living in codependency. For our personalities to develop away from such a rut, we need to effect a number of ideas. These will help us dig down into our selves revealing our true, beautiful and authentic self.
The first step would be creating a relationship with oneself. In the (Runaway Bride), the character Julia Roberts plays finally makes a decision. She would henceforth choose the eggs she liked rather than those her former partners preferred. A guy should take time to focus on their dislikes, likes and preferences. They should learn more about those things that make them happy or unhappy. They need to find healthy ways to cope and deal with those things that make them unhappy.
A crucial step is the establishment of personal boundaries. This is important because it helps one cease people pleasing. Basic forms of personal boundaries include where to draw that red line and when to say no. A good example is blatantly declining to let an individual to convince one to do something they do not want to do. This is even if such an individual manipulates one with negative comments. Enforcements of boundaries this way shall improve relationships.
Listening to and trusting ones own intuition and feelings is another step. One should observe exactly what they are feeling and thinking. They should remind themselves that they could make their own judgements and have opinions.
We have to honor our needs and intentions as a matter of importance. We co-dependent people have a tendency to make decisions not for our own betterment but concerning other peoples needs. This means we fear uttering any word. In this instance, we need to question our intentions for our actions and words. This means we must understand our ideas and motives as opposed to letting other people define them for us. It helps us as we develop confidence and self-respect making it much easier for us to communicate our needs to everyone.
Creating your own positive space is another crucial step. You achieve this once you learn to differentiate between supporting someone with a problem rather than taking responsibility for that persons problem. This realization enables you create your personal positive space. Establishment of boundaries where everybody else ends and yours begins happens this way.
Finally, we have to commit ourselves to lifting our self-esteem and self-confidence. Leaving our co-dependent relationship shall take commitment and time. The more we know who we are and what we want, the less we shall let people upset us. It could lead to a year of mistakes. A second learning from and discovering such mistakes. Another year may be about practicing loving ourselves. A fourth year may center on acceptance, solidification on our inner loving kindness and awareness.
In the end, people are responsible for their own happiness. What is created in themselves can later be skilfully imparted to others. In this vibrant and dynamic world, self-love makes us all stronger.
The first step would be creating a relationship with oneself. In the (Runaway Bride), the character Julia Roberts plays finally makes a decision. She would henceforth choose the eggs she liked rather than those her former partners preferred. A guy should take time to focus on their dislikes, likes and preferences. They should learn more about those things that make them happy or unhappy. They need to find healthy ways to cope and deal with those things that make them unhappy.
A crucial step is the establishment of personal boundaries. This is important because it helps one cease people pleasing. Basic forms of personal boundaries include where to draw that red line and when to say no. A good example is blatantly declining to let an individual to convince one to do something they do not want to do. This is even if such an individual manipulates one with negative comments. Enforcements of boundaries this way shall improve relationships.
Listening to and trusting ones own intuition and feelings is another step. One should observe exactly what they are feeling and thinking. They should remind themselves that they could make their own judgements and have opinions.
We have to honor our needs and intentions as a matter of importance. We co-dependent people have a tendency to make decisions not for our own betterment but concerning other peoples needs. This means we fear uttering any word. In this instance, we need to question our intentions for our actions and words. This means we must understand our ideas and motives as opposed to letting other people define them for us. It helps us as we develop confidence and self-respect making it much easier for us to communicate our needs to everyone.
Creating your own positive space is another crucial step. You achieve this once you learn to differentiate between supporting someone with a problem rather than taking responsibility for that persons problem. This realization enables you create your personal positive space. Establishment of boundaries where everybody else ends and yours begins happens this way.
Finally, we have to commit ourselves to lifting our self-esteem and self-confidence. Leaving our co-dependent relationship shall take commitment and time. The more we know who we are and what we want, the less we shall let people upset us. It could lead to a year of mistakes. A second learning from and discovering such mistakes. Another year may be about practicing loving ourselves. A fourth year may center on acceptance, solidification on our inner loving kindness and awareness.
In the end, people are responsible for their own happiness. What is created in themselves can later be skilfully imparted to others. In this vibrant and dynamic world, self-love makes us all stronger.
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